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18 Sex Toys For Men To Try In 2023 For Mind-Blowing Male Orgasms
While women's sex toys are known for being robust and full of choices, masturbation for men can often be thought of as one-dimensional. But the truth is, when it comes to the best sex toys for men, there are more options than you might think.
Men can choose from cock rings, anal toys, and beyond to help boost their pleasure—and there are great sex toys for couples, too, if you want to involve a partner.
As much as anyone, men deserve to enjoy the endless benefits of masturbation, and these adult toys can help get you there.
Read on for the best male sex toys, and you'll be on your way to experiencing all types of pleasure.
Our top picks for the best male sex toys
- Best cock ring: Lovehoney Bionic Bullet Vibrating Cock Ring
- Best for focused stimulation: Trojan Vibrating Pulse Intimate Massager
- Best wand vibrator: Fun Factory MANTA Vibrating Stroker
- Best waterproof: Arcwave Ion Pleasure Air Stroker
- Best user-friendly: Classic Pink Lady Fleshlight
- Best hands-free: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential
- Best for porn enthusiasts: SVAKOM Alex Neo Masturbator
- Best for solo use: Desire Male Vibrator
- Best for beginner anal pleasure: Pleasure Works Gala Confetti Mini Anal Plug
- Best easy to use: Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo Vibrator
- Best heated: Satisfyer Men Heat Vibration
- Best for any gender: nJoy Pure Wand
- Best for beginners: Trojan Tantrix Pleasure Sleeve
- Best for stamina training: Zero Tolerance Thrusting Stroker
- Best for multi-stimulator: Lelo LOKI Wave™
- Best with lubrication: TENGA Flip Hole Masturbator
- Best for experienced anal play: b-Vibe Rimming Plug Petite
- Best lubrication: Überlube
How to pick the right male sex toy
We spoke with psychotherapist and board-certified clinical sexologist, Joe Kort, Ph.D., LMSW, to help navigate the (seemingly endless) options for men's sex toys.
Lucky for you, he clued us in on some key advice to keep you from getting overwhelmed (and from simply grabbing the first shiny item you see).
- Reputable brand: First, you'll want to always make sure you are purchasing sex toys from reputable companies—and don't always assume higher price tags equate to quality. Kort busts this myth, saying, "Sometimes a $20 sex toy can give you more pleasure than a $100 sex toy."
- Shape & material: Instead of reaching for the highest price tag, assess the shape and material, and how it feels against your skin.
- Intensity levels: You'll also want to pay attention to the levels of intensity it provides, along with the basic functionality. For example: do you want a vibrating toy, or are you more focused on texture?
Lastly, Kort recommends always saving the receipt—and if the toy comes with a warranty, don't forget to register the device before use.
The best male sex toys (2023)
Best cock ring: Lovehoney Bionic Bullet Vibrating Cock Ring
Pros:
- Less expensive
- Compact
Cons:
- Some say the vibrations are weak
Type:
Cock ringMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
YesCock rings are great masturbatory aids for anyone with a penis. To stimulate your shaft and testicles simultaneously and receive increased pleasure, try these textured, vibrating double cock rings. "These penis rings can give you multiple orgasms by trapping blood flow in your shaft," explains Kort. The best part is that besides its multifaceted dual rings, you can use the bullet vibe on its own—that means you get two sex toys for the price of one!
Best for focused stimulation: Trojan Vibrating Pulse Intimate Massager
Pros:
- Multiple settings
- Less expensive
Cons:
- Some say it is not the best quality
Type:
MassagerCondomMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AWith this vibrating massager for men, you can direct the pleasure where you want it most. It delivers an intense, focused stimulation. Kort says the best way to use this massager is by "Pressing the vibrating massager to your perineum while stroking your penis with your other hand." What's great about this option is its duality—while it's a perfect way to bring the fireworks to your solo play, you can also enjoy it with a partner.
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Best wand vibrator: Fun Factory MANTA Vibrating Stroker
Pros:
- Designed specifically for men
- Intense vibrations
Cons:
- Expensive
Type:
StrokerMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
YesThink wand vibrators are just for vaginas and vulvas? Guess again. Recommended by certified sex therapist Courtney Geter, LMFT-S, CST, wand vibrators make great masturbation accessories for anyone with a penis. To join in on the fun, you can get a magic wand attachment specifically for penises, or you can go with a brand Geter vouches for: Fun Factory.
The MANTA vibrating stroker comes with a loop handle that's easy to hold, and it fits around the shaft for your stroking pleasure or focused sensation. With ridges that hold lube (better glide!) and a motor that vibrates along your penis, you can enjoy this sex toy to simulate the feeling of a warm handjob or deep blowjob.
Best waterproof: Arcwave Ion Pleasure Air Stroker
Pros:
- Waterproof
- Multiple vibration settings
Cons
- Expensive
Type:
StrokerMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
YesA waterproof and submersible male sex toy with eight intensity settings, this air stroker is designed to stimulate over 4,000 nerve endings in the penis as you stroke and grind. It's "revolutionary in the sense that it has the wonderful air pulse technology made for penises," Marla Renee Stewart, M.A., a sexologist and sex expert for the sexual wellness brand and retailer Lovers, explains.
Stewart says this should be the "go-to toy" for anyone who wants to enjoy a deeper and stronger sensation as they masturbate, adding that "This can also make you come over and over and over again in the same session." Sounds like this one is worth the investment—and reviewers agree. One says, "I've never been a huge fan of strokers, but I find myself obsessed with the Arcwave. The stimulation you get from the sleeve and vibration is other wordly. It's all I'm using and I am recommending it to everyone. For real. Simple, straightforward, and fun. It helped me to an killer climax. Can't wait to use it again and again."
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Best user-friendly: Classic Pink Lady Fleshlight
Pros:
- Easy to use
- Less expensive
Cons:
- Some reviewers say it is not the best quality
Type:
SleeveMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
N/AHypoallergenic:
N/AWhile all of these sex toys are user-friendly, this one is a no-brainer. To add more variety to your solo masturbation, consider this classic. A handheld artificial vagina or anus sleeve toy, Fleshlights are easily "one of the most requested sex toys from men," Kort says—and like we said, it's incredibly straightforward. "Slip it over your penis to simulate the feel of vaginal or anal sex," explained Kort. You'll be experiencing all the pleasures of penetration in no time.
There are over 500 five-star reviews for this sex toy on Amazon, with most customers raving about (you guessed it) how easy it is to use. People also love the fact that it's easy to clean, and (of course) the mind-blowing pleasure it delivers. One (literally) satisfied shopper writes, "It's great for simply getting off, building and maintaining stamina, and it can be fun for you and your partner. Very versatile, discreet and super easy to clean." However, some do wish it was a better quality for the money.
Best hands free: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential
Pros
- Hands free
- Multiple speeds
Cons:
- Some say the material could be softer
Type:
MasturbatorMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AFor vibrating men's sex toys, Howard recommends "anything from Hot Octopuss'" line of "vibrating, warming, pulsing toys that are designed to please the penis in ways your hands just can't." However, her favorite Hot Octopuss male masturbator is this versatile Guybrator™, which provides hands-free orgasms whether your penis is erect or flaccid. Because this sex toy pulses and moves back and forth on the penis at various speeds, you don't have to worry about stroking—it does all the work for you, and all you need to do is enjoy.
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Best for porn enthusiasts: SVAKOM Alex Neo Masturbator
Pros:
- App enabled
- Detachable sleeve
Cons:
- Some reviewers say it's loud
Type:
StrokerMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AThe Alex Neo Masturbator is an app-enabled, thrusting stroker that's stocked with a headphone jack plus multiple thrusting modes and audible experiences. Perfect for anyone who wants to use an app or video chat with a long-distance partner (or one who's in another room), this sex toy's web capabilities also make it a great pick for porn enthusiasts.
"The fact that you can pair it with your favorite porn and align the strokes accordingly gets you dangerously close to virtual reality masturbation," says Stewart. If that's not your style, remove this masturbator's detachable textured sleeve and create your own pleasure.
"Although some folks think this toy is a bit noisy, this is a phenomenal toy for its interactive experience alone," says Stewart.
Best for solo use: Desire Male Vibrator
Pros:
- Multiple settings
- Compact
Cons:
- Some say the vibrations could be stronger
Type:
VibratorMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AOf this silicone, ribbed male masturbator with 12 speeds and eight patterns, Kort says, "You can use these to massage your balls or shaft for mind-blowing pleasure." It's simple: After applying a water-based lube on the toy, slide your penis or scrotum through the angled loop, then take in all the sensations. This is certainly a sex toy for solo lovers who want an amplified and customized sensory experience that leads to body-rippling orgasms.
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Best for beginner anal pleasure: Pleasure Works Gala Confetti Mini Anal Plug
Pros:
- Less expensive
- Compact
Cons:
- No added features
Type:
Anal plugMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AFor anal pleasure novices who find penetration intimidating, licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist Vanessa Marin recommends starting with a small, simple butt plug, like this one from Pleasure Works. It's a confetti-decorated silicone plug that's flexible and tapered for easy insertion. Plus, the wings give you easy control of its movements while you masturbate.
Best easy to use: Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo Vibrator
Pros:
- Multiple vibration settings
- Waterproof
Cons:
- Some say it is too loud
- Some say it is too large
Type:
MasturbatorMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AOf this top-of-the-line vibrator that features air pulse stimulation and six vibration settings, Stewart says this is a great sex toy for men with penises "because you can use it while flaccid or erect, or to get from flaccid to erect!" Plus, it's waterproof, so she recommends this for anyone who wants to feel this toy's oscillating pulse plate on their shaft in a steamy hot tub, pool, or shower.
While some reviewers wish this toy was a bit quieter and more compact, the feedback is mainly positive, with most shoppers raving about how easy it is to use, and the powerful orgasms it helps them achieve. One writes, "Easy fit and control. Works like a charm. I really didn’t expect it to work this good."
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Best heated: Satisfyer Men Heat Vibration
Pros:
- Heated
- Multiple settings
Cons:
- Some say the vibrations are weak
Type:
VibratorMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/AIf you want a vibrator that does all the work for you, Stewart recommends this one. "Not only is it a vibrator, but it also heats you up to help you get to your climax," she explains. A sex toy that includes a soft sleeve with pleasure ridges, 70 vibration patterns massage, and two motors, the Satisfyer Men Heat Vibration is an exceptional option if you want the pleasure of vaginal and oral-sex-like sensations.
Best for any gender: nJoy Pure Wand
Pros:
- For anyone
- Sleek
Cons:
- Some say it's not great for solo use
Type:
DildoMaterial:
MetalWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
YesThis is mostly known as a G-spot stimulator for women, and sex educator Kenneth Play says it's also "the ultimate prostate toy." This 8-inch, nonvibrating wand provides a direct connection to your prostate, relying only on its design and construction to stimulate you. As you use this to receive deep, fulfilling prostate orgasms, Play says its "long, curved shape makes it ideal for self-pleasure without arm strain." Sounds like a win-win to me.
With over 200 reviews on the Lovehoney website, this toy has a near-perfect rating. While a few reviewers do say it isn't great for solo use, multiple people say this gives the "strongest orgasm" they have ever seen.
Best for beginners: Trojan Tantrix Pleasure Sleeve
Pros:
- Less expensive
- Easy to use
Cons:
- One time use
Type:
SleeveMaterial:
SheetWaterproof:
N/AHypoallergenic:
N/AThe Trojan Tantrix pleasure sleeve is "a soft, handheld pleasure sheet with textured ridges" that provides "a natural feeling," explains Kort. This single-use masturbation aid is simple, super affordable, and a solid pick if you're new to masturbating with sleeves, or if you want a quick and easy way to spice up your self-pleasure.
Best for stamina training: Zero Tolerance Thrusting Stroker
Pros:
- Well-made
- Incorporates stamina training
Cons:
- Expensive
Type:
StrokerMaterial:
RubberWaterproof:
NoHypoallergenic:
N/A"Need some stamina?" asks Stewart. "This is the perfect stroker for that." With this toy's lively thrusting action, you'll barely have to stroke as it pleasures you. (Maybe you can simulate the cowgirl position?) Plus, because it incorporates stamina training, you'll last even longer than you usually do. Lined with soft and stretchy rubber, this sex toy for men features five thrusting levels that each have additional levels of intensity. "And the lifelike entry is a bonus!" says Stewart.
Best multi-stimulator: Lelo LOKI Wave™
Pros:
- Multiple settings
- Well-made
Cons:
- Expensive
Type:
MassagerMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/ANow, if you're at a more intermediate level with anal play, "The Lelo Loki Wave is great," says Marin, noting that it's known for "incredible prostate play." With adjustable power across 10 stimulation modes, the LOKI luxury sex toy was designed and shaped to provide immeasurable pleasure and stimulation both externally and internally. Its two motors target your prostate and perineum, and the stimulator moves back and forth against your prostate, pushing you closer and closer to an orgasm.
Best with lubrication: TENGA Flip Hole Masturbator
Pros:
- Multiple settings
- Multiple holes
Cons:
- Some say it's difficult to use
Type:
MassagerMaterial:
Thermoplastic elastomerWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/A"The Tenga Flip is the gold standard for male masturbators," Marin says. This toy includes three holes you fill with lubrication that disperses as you stroke your shaft. Filled with jellylike silicone and complete with a soft, thermoplastic interior, this is the epitome of male pleasure devices. Although Marin's had some clients feel skeptical about this sex toy recommendation, she says their "minds were blown after they tried one!"
Best for experienced anal play: b-Vibe Rimming Plug Petite
Pros:
- Sleek design
- Remote controlled
Cons:
- Expensive
Type:
Anal plugMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
YesMulti-certified sexual pleasure and health educator Kit Richardson loves this anal sex toy from b-Vibe because it's "unique to the anal-play market." She explains that it "simulates the sensation of rimming with its vibrating head and rotating beads in the neck and base."
Best lubrication: Überlube
Pros:
- Less expensive
- Use with any toy
Cons:
- Some reviewers complain about the packaging
Type:
LubricantMaterial:
SiliconeWaterproof:
YesHypoallergenic:
N/A"Lube is your friend!" says Stewart. And it's the last item on our list because each recommended sex toy for men would feel infinitely more pleasurable with the right lube.
Look at it this way: "Although spit can be great, lube can outlast it anytime," she says.
To experience boosted sensations and increased stimulation, Geter recommends high-end luxury lubricant Überlube, which is designed to transfer sensation while reducing friction. You can also try Kort's pick, Trojan Arouses and Releases lubricant, which has both warming and cooling sensations.
Tips & tricks
Switch up your positions
"You probably have masturbated in the same position for years," asserts Kort. (I mean, when something works, it works, right?) Try switching up your routine.
Rather than stand up, Kort says to lie on your back; and if you like to sit, stand up. You also can push your hips forward or elevate them with a pillow.
Here's the benefit: "Changing positions can improve your pelvic floor muscles' resting tone, which improves blood flow to your penis."
Play with your grip or stroking speed
To find a new sense of pleasure, Kort says, "Slow it down," mentioning that penis-holders may be "squeezing your penis too hard or stroking too fast."
Plus, if you find yourself feeling desensitized to your own, Geter suggests trying a different hand, incorporating various types of erotica, or even putting on "a condom while masturbating for a different feel and sensation."
Try edging
Anticipation is one hell of a way to build up an explosive orgasm.
"Work yourself right up to the edge of ejaculation, then take a short break," instructs Kort, "just long enough for your erection to soften a little."
Before you reach orgasm, start masturbating again, then repeat the edging process three or four times. (Here's our full guide to edging.)
Involve your prostate
Kort explains that your prostate gland, which is right inside your anus, can provide tremendous pleasure.
To stimulate it, "use some lube and your fingers; it's that simple."
And while you're there, don't forget your "other common erogenous zones such as the scrotum and perineum," the expert reminds. (Here's our full guide to prostate milking.)
Try sensory play
To stimulate your senses during masturbation and increase enjoyment, Geter recommends using items like feathers or ice to engage in sensory play—i.e., an array of activities and objects meant to ignite sexual excitement through physical sensations that engage all your senses.
In addition to feathers, Kort also recommends smooth fabrics like silk to engage your senses.
"Gently pass the fabric or feather over the sensitive areas of your penis, taint, scrotum, or even your nipples," he explains. "Feather play can be very erotic!"
Include someone else
Just because it's solo play doesn't mean you always have to do it alone—mutual masturbation is totally available as an option to enhance your pleasure, especially for partners having virtual sex.
The excitement of involving someone else can be explosive, says Kort, who tells mbg you can masturbate with a partner in person or via a Zoom or Skype session.
You can even "try an app [or website] for some pre-masturbation sexting," which is a great option for foreplay.
Use what you have at home
Sometimes, the best sex toys for men are ones that are right in your nightstand—or kitchen, bathroom, closet, office...you get the picture.
In those heated, impatient moments when you want to pleasure yourself without a trip to a sex store or waiting for a package, there's plenty to be inspired by in your own house.
Sometimes that could be a showerhead or sock.
How to clean your toys
Cleaning your toys right after you use them is a must, says Stewart, warning, "Don't get lazy!" If you do, "You'll end up with a yucky mess, and your toys will deteriorate faster."
It's important to remember that the "correct way to clean sex toys depends on the type of material it's made of," reminds Kort. (Check out our guide to learn how to clean every type of sex toy.)
For example, Stewart mentions that many penis masturbation toys aren't made of silicone, so it's necessary to have a toy cleaner.
But even when they are silicone-made, cleaners are vital.
"Only use an approved toy cleaner such as Sliquid Shine Toy Cleaner or the UVee Complete Care System," says Geter. Otherwise, nonapproved cleaners might "break down the silicone, allowing for bacteria to grow"—which could easily transfer infections to you during masturbation.
And for the times when you don't have it in you to wash them after masturbation, Kort recommends to "use an unscented baby wipe for a quick cleanup, then wash it thoroughly before your next use."
Here are a few more of Kort's tips to note to keep your sex toys clean:
- Clean each toy when you first get it and before its first use.
- After cleaning, completely dry your sex toys before storing them to avoid mold or mildew.
- To store, consider placing them in the original packaging, a plastic container, or a satin sack. (Drawers easily collect dust!)
- Don't share your toys without taking proper precautions.
- Avoid cleaning toys with scented soaps, household cleaning products, or bleach. A mild, unscented soap or sex toy cleaner is best.
The takeaway
How often do you choose to masturbate with these homemade and store-bought toys? Well, that's entirely up to you. But when you do, don't forget the lube—and definitely don't forget to wash your toys before and after each use.
Plus, if you plan to turn your solo masturbation into mutual fun, wrap it up just like you would during intercourse.
Remember: It's still possible to get an infection or pass it on from using and sharing unclean sex toys. Believe me—when you play the right way, your pleasure will know no bounds.
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