9 Things That Sex Dream Could Be Telling You & What To Do About It

Not only are sex dreams totally normal, but they can also carry valuable information, according to dream interpreter Lauri Loewenberg. Here, we're rolling through the types of sex dreams people often have, what they could mean, and how to stop having them (only if you want to, of course).

So, have no fear if you're happily coupled up and still dreaming about sleeping with strangers or your boss. According to Loewenberg, sex in a dream most often represents a desire to connect to some internal aspect of that person, like a trait or behavior, rather than their physical body.

Keeping in mind that sleeping with someone in a dream often represents wanting a quality that person has, dreaming about a boss or teacher might mean that "you want the qualities of a boss," Loewenberg explains. "You want more authority, you want to be in charge and make firmer decisions. It could also be that you want to get in good with the boss or connect with them in some way so they'll respect you."

"Maybe they're very muscular, for example," she says. "If some characteristic or trait really stands out about the person in the dream, that's what they represent. So, muscles would represent your own ability to be strong, handle tough situations, and muscle through something difficult."

If it's an ex that you're glad to be rid of, she adds, having sex with them in a dream could actually be an indication that you're coming to peace with that relationship and letting it go.

We project a lot onto celebrities. And usually, if you're dreaming about sleeping with one, there's something they have that you want. "Remember, connection is the name of the game. If it's [a movie star], there's probably a quality in the character they played that you desire," Loewenberg says.

Having public sex in a dream, then, could represent a preoccupation with status or recognition. And depending on who you're sleeping with, you might be seeking recognition for the qualities that person has.

The partner in this dream "could be a message from your subconscious that if you unite a certain quality of this person into your life, into your behavior, it will help you cleanse that negativity."

"To the dreaming mind, the kitchen would indicate that you're cooking up some kind of idea or project that will feed your soul, that will nourish you psychologically, emotionally, perhaps financially." And your partner in the dream, she explains, is a clue to the quality or behavior you can integrate into yourself in order to get your project moving along.

In some cases, this dream could indicate you're being too hard on yourself in some way, Loewenberg says. It could also mean you want more control in some area of your life (dom) or alternatively, you wish someone else would take control (sub). And of course, it could also mean you're simply intrigued by the possibility and want to try it in real life.

And lastly, if you dreamed you slept with a friend, "it can sometimes be about connecting or coming together on some level psychologically or emotionally," Loewenberg says. "Have you recently connected? Did you have an intimate, revealing conversation or discover you share the same POV or have gone through a similar experience?" The dream would be a reflection of how you connected or, perhaps, how you want to connect.

To figure out the message, remember the main thing you want to do is "ask yourself, in what way do I need to connect with this person?" Loewenberg notes, as well as what it is you admire or respect about them. From there, you can start to embody whatever that quality or trait is.

All dreams are mysterious and up for interpretation. Sex dreams are no exception. But rest assured that they don't always need to be taken literally. In fact, they usually don't.